You meet someone. You date for a while. You meet their friends. They meet yours. Everything is going great… until it isn’t and you break up. Some end amicably, others less so. But when all is said and done, and you returned their stupid windbreaker that you never liked anyway, you want to hang out with your friends. But which friends are still your friends, and which ones aren’t anymore? And are you going to have to share your friends with them?Here’s a quick and easy list – delineating allies.Instant Messengerstrongnbutifl: whats happenin1ofdaguys: brb1ofdaguys is idlestrongnbutifl: if you’re busy we can talk laterAutoresponse from 1ofdaguys: drinkin with the crewThrow a party on the same night as your ex’s birthday. See who comes to which one, and who comes to both.Came:Lou (best friend)Sharon (coworker)Dallas (neighbor)Dennis (dependable)Jen (left at 10:30)Ben (left with Jen)Aaron (came at 11:45)Lynn (came with Aaron)Didn’t Come:Austin (other neighbor – wtf?)Susan (midterm)Erin (not my friend)Jack (not my friend)Justin (not a favorite anyway)Bella (ugly)Patrick (probably stoned; forgot)Ask a friend to pick up your stuff from the ex’s. If they do it, see how long it takes, and what their attitude towards you is afterwards.Call a friend up and say you want to talk . Blame all the relationship’s problems on yourself. See if they agree.